Dating problems in todays society

01 Sep

The biggest problem with Facebook is the bullshit factor. Back in the early days of Match.com, most of us thought that shit was for losers.

We all carefully craft how we want to be perceived by others, and then just try to live up to that image in real life. Then we begrudgingly accepted it, and before you knew it, it was the only way to go. Assessing people on the most superficial level with a left or right swipe. Sit down and count the number of people you reject in one minute.

As part of that work, I have asked women about their perceptions of the dating market - what they have to do to acquire a good prospect in light of the fact that there are other women out there trying to win the same prize.

A comment I routinely hear is that they greatly dislike the dating scene today.

Dating has never been that easy; every time you come out of a long-term relationship, it seems like all the rules have changed.

Nowadays, things are way the hell out of control to the point that the thought of dying alone seems easier to stomach than attempting to navigate the dating scene.

As we progress as a people and strive for greater things, dating will become more difficult.

There are obvious reasons as to why this is, and often we cannot be blamed.

I know OK Cupid took it over as the go-to site, but I don’t even know if the cool kids are doing that anymore, or if what we used to consider the laziest form of getting dates has been deemed to require too much effort. It’s fine as a hook-up tool, but of course, that’s another nail in the coffin for actual dating.We're no longer accountable for thoughtful action and instead feel a sense of entitlement about what we should be getting. We don't give a sh*t what we're not doing, we only care about what the person we're dating isn't doing because we feel like we deserve the world on a silver platter without bringing our own elegance to the table. The problem is women, but surely the problem is never us.We're no longer accountable for our own rejections. We're never accountable for our own footprints on our dating paths. We treat dating partners like i Phones and recycle the old models for a minor enhancement.We're no longer accountable for how someone feels when we've decided we no longer want to pursue the relationship.Instead, we dive into avoidance and dismissal as if awakening feelings within someone for us isn't our responsibility.Okay, Facebook is great when you meet someone at a party or whatever, because it helps you maintain some form of contact if you don’t want to date this person right away for whatever reason. Used to be, when you got a girl’s number, you had a finite amount of time to call her or you’d blow your chance.Now, you can just friend her, send her a message or like a post every now and then and string things out till Judgment Day.There are three main sources of concern - the quality of the mate, the energies they have to undertake to self promote, and the competition they face.I should preface the rest of this blog by saying that I don't know much about men's views of the dating world, as it's not part of my research, so I'm going to focus on women here.If you're single like I am in 2016, you've probably done your fair share of pulling your hair out and have fought off the temptations to stab yourself in the eye with your salad fork, because sh*t just keeps getting even more ridiculous.There's a long list of reasons why dating in 2016 makes me want to jump off the Empire State Building, but one thing really stands out.