Speed dating what to say

12 Oct

’ It can never work.” Speed dating gives you the chance to meet people who are also looking for a date, but instead of learning everything about them up front, you have a conversation with them and see if you get along.

I’m sure this was a combination of feeling embarrassed to go against the grain, and also the intimidation factor that came with four women who were clearly good friends, all scrutinizing the same guys. It’s definitely better than going with a big group of friends, but keep in mind there could be a jealousy factor.

Of all the ways in which culturally brainwashed beta males are encouraged to meet with women who may deign to glance at them momentarily before opting for the dude with ripped jeans and gleaming pecs, speed dating must surely be among the worst.

Any set-up where men are forced to sit meekly at desks while overly-entitled, overly carb-fed women clump up and down expecting to be entertained and making their dead-eyed acolytes jump accordingly doesn’t sound like my kind of deal.

Compared to Vegas or Ibiza, this is a walk in the park.

Not that the women were anything to write home about – apparently speed dating is a pastime largely favoured by post-wall divorcees anxious to wield a little power again.

So you’re not brushing someone off for some interest they have that probably wouldn’t even effect your relationship with them, you’re getting a slight glimpse at whether or not you might actually enjoy their company. Online dating can be a lot of fun, and can yield some great results.

Here are five tips for setting realistic expectations to make speed dating an enjoyable experience.1. Your main goal for the event should be to enjoy talking to new people.

In my experience, most people have something interesting to talk about.

Most of us have only seen speed dating in movies and TV, where it’s portrayed as possibly the most godawful experience on the planet. It’s easy to make a joke out of a quick interaction with a weird character we never have to see again. Here’s the lowdown on what speed dating is like for real people: An equal number of men and women (usually 10 – 12) sit down at a table, armed with a name tag and a piece of paper. But meeting him in person, I found him fascinating and really enjoyed our conversation. At the event I went to last week there was a group of four girls, all of whom handed in their sheets with nothing but “Nos” circled.

You meet someone, you talk for 5 minutes, and afterward you circle “yes” if you liked them or “no” if you didn’t. You get to make snap judgements on people (we’re humans, we all love to judge and you know it), and you also get to meet a ton of interesting people you never would otherwise. I’m sure that all four of those women have varying taste in men, not to mention the degree of different types of men who were in attendance.